For Parents On The Go:
1. Sunday Mornings & Wednesday Nights in March. Date Different. An honest conversation with your child on dating, sex and marriage.
2. Saturday, April 9th. College Trip to Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia. We will be taking a tour of LU and eating lunch in the cafeteria as well as doing something else fun on campus. Cost: TBD
3. June 20-24th. Summer Camp: Mission Fuge at Liberty University. Money for camp ($150) is due by April 1st. Please make all checks out to FBCS Youth Ministry. If you would like more information about camp here is there website… http://www.fugecamps.com/
We have been busy these past two months discussing dating, sex and marriage with your son or daughter. I believe the series has been going well and everyone has been challenged. I wanted to focus in this month’s newsletter outlining everything that we have been learning.
How To Date Different For the Guys:
1. Don’t pursue girls, pursue Christ, then pursue a woman.
2. Prepare yourself for dating by pursuing the marks of manhood:
a. Knowing the Gospel
b. Sacrificial Leadership
c. Hard Work
d. Protecting Women & Children At All Costs
e. Making good decisions for the benefit of others.
3. Invite other dudes into your life for wisdom and accountability
4. Pursue a girl with her dad’s approval, but don’t date until you are ready for marriage.
How To Date Different For the Girls:
1. Don’t pursue boys, pursue Christ and a man one day will pursue you.
2. Prepare yourself for dating by pursuing the marks of womanhood:
a. Knowing the Gospel
b. Sacrificial Helper
c. Courageous Nurturer
d. Protector of True Beauty
e. Guarding the Unity of Your Home
3. Invite other ladies into your life for wisdom and accountability
4. Be vocal about who you are in Christ when a man pursues you
5. Allow your dad (or Christian community) to be your leader, provider, protector until the day you are married.
How To Date Different For Couples:
1. Ask yourself the hard questions:
a. Are both of our parents involved?
b. Are we both ready for marriage?
c. Are we staying pure?
d. Are we involving others in our dating relationship for wisdom and accountability?
2. Have we made our intentions clear to each other, to our parents, and to other believers in our life?
3. Why are we dating?
4. Who is holding us accountable?
Encouragement for Dad’s of Young Daughters:
1. Date Them Now And Often:
a. If you don’t have a few times a month daddy date with your daughters, then get going immediately. This will help to show your daughter how she is to be treated by a man.
2. Set The Bar High:
a. Set the bar high for any dude who tries to pursue your daughter. Date them and treat them like royalty. When it’s time for them to be pursued, the bar will be right where it needs to be.
3. Set A Clear Standard In Your Home From An Early Age:
a. Talk with your daughters at an early age about what your home will look like with friends and boys. Set boundaries. You are the parent not her best friend.
4. Have A Purity Weekend Between Mom & Daughter:
a. Have a purity weekend where mom and daughter can go away and have a special weekend together. During this weekend, deepen the conversation on dating, sex, and marriage. Challenge and parent them to date different.
Encouragement for Dad’s of Young Sons:
1. Spend Relational Time With Them Often:
a. Spend as much relational time with your son as possible. Take them to ball games. Go hunting together. Go to movies. Go out to eat. Just spend time with your son-both quality and quantity time.
2. Engage Them Spiritually And Emotionally:
a. Throughout their young childhood, engage your son both spiritually and emotionally. Let them see you model your faith. Part of modeling your faith will be modeling repentance. Begin to talk with them about deep things. Pray with them. Let them see your passion for your King..
3. Teach Them Biblical Manhood At An Early Age:
a. Dads, it is your job to teach your son the marks of mature manhood. Read books with them. Memorize Scripture with them. Help them learn to be leaders, providers, and protectors at an early age. This is your most important aim as a dad.
4. Have A Purity Weekend Between Dad And Son:
a. When ready, take your sons on a purity weekend. Do something awesome together. Go and kill stuff. During this weekend, deepen the conversation on dating, sex, and marriage. Challenge and parent them to date different.
HOW TO DATE DIFFERENT: WEEKLY SUMMARY
GOD: Week One
In all things, begin with God and his design for it.
ME: Week Two
This is a season to prepare, not a season to practice.
THEM: Week Three
Test the CHARACTER of the person you wish to date.
US: Week Four
Sex is a GIFT within the context of marriage, given by God, to married couples.
WE: Week Five
Involve your parents (and the church) in your relationship for wisdom and accountability as you move forward.